Coral Osborne
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Sex, Status, and the Psychology of Control
Coral Osborne June 12, 2025 Sex, Status, and the Psychology of Control ↓ I remember sleeping with this guy once—objectively hot, clearly well-practiced. The kind of man who probably watched a lot of tutorials, read all the right books, maybe even got praised by exes for being “so attentive.” His hands moved in all the right patterns. He said all the right things. And yet… I left his bed and never once thought about going back. Not because anything was wrong. He was technically solid. He asked...
What Sex Work Taught Me About Working With Men
Coral Osborne June 9, 2025 What Sex Work Taught Me About Working With Men ↓ Working with men wasn’t a calculated choice—it was something I found myself doing, almost by accident, as if the work chose me. I landed here through a journey that was anything but strategic—more mythic than planned. A hero’s journey of my own. In my mid-twenties, after burning through every cent trying to fund a startup, I made the decision to enter sex work. I could say it was purely financial. But that would be a...
Sex Addiction Is a Myth — But Shame Isn’t
Coral Osborne June 4, 2025 Sex Addiction Is a Myth — But Shame Isn’t ↓ We live in a culture that fears sex. It distorts it, represses it, monetizes it—and then punishes people for desiring it. Especially men. Men are expected to crave sex constantly, but are condemned when that desire becomes “too much.” The result? A chronic double bind. Sexuality becomes a place of pressure, confusion, and often, profound isolation. At the core of many of the struggles I see in men—compulsive behavior, porn...
Sex & Attachment Styles: What Turns You On (and Off) — and Why
Coral Osborne May 29, 2025 Sex & Attachment Styles: What Turns You On (and Off) — and Why ↓ In the world of romantic and sexual intimacy, our attachment style often dictates more than our relationship patterns—it influences our very sense of arousal, desire, and fulfillment. People with insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant) often find themselves in a maddening loop: they crave connection but feel bored or turned off when they finally get the safe, secure...
The Art of Subtle Domming
Coral Osborne May 20, 2025 The Art of Subtle Domming ↓ Last weekend, I attended a shibari workshop. For those unfamiliar, shibari is the Japanese art of rope bondage—not just a kink aesthetic, but a deeply intentional practice of connection, trust, and control. While the containment and restriction were deeply soothing—my nervous system responded to it like a weighted blanket—it wasn’t the rope itself that stirred my arousal. What surprised me was the moment my partner gently tucked my hair...
Understanding and Unpacking Sexual Bypassing
Coral Osborne May 15, 2025 Understanding and Unpacking Sexual Bypassing ↓ In contemporary discussions around sexuality and wellness, we are becoming increasingly aware of how our behaviors—however pleasurable or empowering on the surface—can sometimes mask deeper emotional and psychological patterns. One such behavior is sexual bypassing, a nuanced form of avoidance where sexual experiences are used not as tools for deeper connection and healing, but as shields against vulnerability,...
Know Your Role: Sexual Dynamics and the Power of Being an Adaptive Giver and Active Receiver
Coral Osborne May 8, 2025 Know Your Role: Sexual Dynamics and the Power of Being an Adaptive Giver and Active Receiver ↓ In the world of sexual dynamics, most of us have been taught to categorize ourselves along simple binaries: top or bottom, dominant or submissive, giver or receiver. But when we break these roles down further, especially through the lens of psychology and relational intelligence, we discover that what really shapes meaningful and satisfying sexual experiences isn’t just the...
How The Mother Wound Creates The Madonna-Whore Complex
Coral Osborne April 30, 2025 How The Mother Wound Creates The Madonna-Whore Complex ↓ Why do so many men struggle to see a woman as both deeply desirable and deeply lovable? The answer often lies in a deeply ingrained psychological split known as the Madonna-Whore Complex—a concept first articulated by Freud, but one that continues to shape modern relationships in ways both subtle and profound. At the heart of this split is not simply a cultural or moral dilemma, but an unresolved emotional...
The Art of Male Seduction
Coral Osborne April 23, 2025 The Art of Male Seduction ↓ Seduction is a forgotten art among men—too often confused with the chase for pleasure, when in reality, it's about awakening it. Modern men confuse performance with presence. Thinking they’ve successfully seduced her if her clothes come off. That’s the mindset of someone who’s never been guided into depth, true presence, or authentic seduction. Hookup culture propagated by social media has only deepened the disconnect. And while you may...
8 Takeaways from A Week Training with World Renowned Sex Masters
Coral Osborne April 17, 2025 8 Takeaways From A Week of Training With World Renowned Sex Masters ↓ This past week, I had the profound privilege of attending the in-person retreat for Dr. Saida Desilets’ Embodied Psychosexual Practitioner Training in Sedona. As someone who has always been a cerebral learner, it was my love of inquiry that first led me to the field of sexology. Over the years, I’ve unraveled so much on a psychological level—from understanding how our kinks and desires are...
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